I’m not stranger to the average family these days. You know, the screwed up kind. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love my family…but I remember a time when it didn’t seem to matter if I loved them or not. I was lost in what seemed to be a life always and completely unexpected.
I’ve got every kind of sibling I think there is to have. Full, half, step….quarter? It’s been an interesting journey. And while I can say now I wouldn’t change any of it for the world, I can also say I’ve learned exactly what I don’t want to see my own family have to go through. Pondering the past, I can’t help but think of marriage. I’ve seen families fall apart before my eyes. So what is it? What’s it like? What’s the key to it’s success? Obviously, I’m not married so I don’t have any sort of personal experience to go by, but what I do feel like I have is the Creator of that marriage. The more I talk with Him about it, the longer this question lurks in my mind. What if we worried less about our happiness, and more about our holiness? To me, marriage is an opportunity to practice complete and utter selflessness. That’s hard. Really hard. He didn’t come to show us happiness, He came to show us holiness. What better way than to serve your spouse, the person you love, in order to glorify and honor Him. In order to allow Him to make you Holy through the act of selflessness.
I know we’re not all called to be married, but if you are remember that marriage is more about holiness than it is about happiness. Some will disagree…and that’s perfectly ok with me. You can take that up with Him! 🙂
Kev, I love you. Even though you get on my nerves sometimes.
I love this!
Over the past 6 months or so I’ve really gotten into VH1 television. Specifically Sex Rehab with Dr. Drew. Usually when this comes up in conversation, there’s a quick laugh and that “really?” look thrown my way. Yes, REALLY. Although it can be wildly entertaining to watch some of these people live day to day, my heart is completely broken for them. I carry an extreme hate for pornography or any sort of sexual abuse. I’ve been able to see first hand how these things can destroy a person from the inside out. When I was 5 until about age 9 I was sexually molested by a family member, and although it doesn’t effect my day to day life now there was a time it effected me every single day in a huge way. It broke me. It ruined my view on what God intended for me to understand about sex. How many people have experienced this same hurt? More than you can possibly imagine.
I hate hearing people say that pornography isn’t wrong, that it doesn’t effect them. It angers me. Especially when I watch members of my own family struggle with reclaiming their life due to porn. It’s poison. And the perfect opportunity for Satan to destroy you slowly, without you even realizing….before it’s too late.
On a more personal note, just speaking as a girl, I’m incredibly offended by pornography. Incredibly pissed. Incredibly degraded. The day I start feeling like I’m nothing more than a piece of meat, I’ll be sure to let you know.
Brian Mills posted a blog with a ton of facts about porn and its effects. In fact, I’ll blame him for getting me all fired up about this all over again. Check it out.
Erika Head 